We are Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA), a national organization to provide information and support to Unitarian Universalists who are interested in polyamory.

    Polyamory is the philosophy and practice of loving more than one other person at a time. Here we’ll define “love” as an intimate, romantic, stable, affectionate bond which a person has with another person or group of people. This bond usually, though not necessarily always, involves sex. Other terms often used for polyamory are responsible, ethical, or intentional non-monogamy.

    Polyamory (or “poly” for short) is a general term covering a wide variety of possible relationship styles, including group marriage (sometimes called “polyfidelity”), open marriage, line marriage, expanded family, intimate network, tribe-building, and some kinds of intentional community. The essential feature of all these styles is the realization that it’s possible to have multiple simultaneous love relationships in a context of openness, honesty, and integrity. True polyamory is a conscious and consensual choice for everyone involved. Poly is not cheating or adultery; it is a genuine philosophical alternative to monogamy.

 
How do polys feel about monogamy?

    Most polys have a "live and let live" attitude.They are happy for those people who have found happiness in monogamous relationships.It is difficult, though, for polys not to resent our society’s glorifying monogamy as the only valid, mature, responsible, or sacred kind of love relationship.

    In the minds of polyamorists, monogamy and the nuclear family represent only one in a broad spectrum of options from which people ought to be able to choose.

    Polys believe in freedom of choice. They acknowledge that real love is in no way free. Intimate relationships, monogamous or polyamorous, are complex and challenging, and success requires maturity and hard work.

    Polys are taking on the added challenge of trying to do something that is unsupported by our society and has no established guidelines or rules. We are literally making up our own lovestyle, much as many UUs make up their own personal religion. This is one reason why poly support networks are so important, as is the support and acceptance of our religious community.

    Many polyamorists are parents, and across the country there are children who are growing up happy and healthy in poly families. Of course, such children experience some unusual challenges and advantages in having more than two significant adults in their lives, but all in all the experience need not be much different from any other close-knit extended family.

    The biggest problem many children of poly families face, as do many other children of minorities, is discrimination by the larger community.

    It's a matter of personal choice what lifestyle you adopt. Some people learn about polyamory from friends or loved ones or by reading books, fiction or non-fiction, about polyamory. Some people belong to religious groups which allow and/or encourage polyamory. Some come in contact with national or local polyamory organizations. Of course, many people discover their polyamory totally on their own.

    The polyamory movement is fairly new and hasn’t been studied much, so this question is not easy to answer. Very unscientific impressions would suggest that polys tend to be professionals, artists, academics, and other fairly highly educated people, including a lot of computer and health professionals. Interest in science-fiction is common amongst polys, many of whom are inspired by authors like Robert Heinlein and Marian Zimmer Bradley. Polys range through all age groups, genders, religious beliefs, and sexual orientations

    One trait inherent in being poly is a high regard for the values of honestly, open communication, and integrity. Adultery, cheating, broken promises, manipulation and coercion are no more welcome in poly relationships than in monogamous ones.