Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness
Louisville Chapter
UUPA, Louisville Chapter, is a monthly, facilitated discussion group
for people interested in or curious about polyamory and UUism in the Louisville,
Kentucky area. UUPA is an autonomous organization. Neither UUPA nor the
Louisville Chapter is sponsored or endorsed by the Unitarian Universalist
Association or by any congregation.
What Is Polyamory?
UUPA defines polyamory as the philosophy and practice of loving or relating
intimately to more than one other person at a time with honesty and integrity.
UUPA advocates for any form of relationship or family structure - whether
monogamous or multi-partner - which is characterized by free and responsible
choice, mutual consent of all involved, and sincere adherence to personal
philosophical values.
What does polyamory
have to do with Unitarian Universalism?
Relationships are central to our sense of ourselves, and therefore to
our spirituality. Polyamorists, like everyone else, need religious communities
where we are safe to talk freely about our families.
Who We Are
We are individuals who have an interest in both Unitarian Universalism
and polyamory. We are UU members and friends, some of whom are polyamorous,
who have an interest in learning about polyamory, spirituality, church,
and the relationship among them. Our meetings have welcomed some UUs who
are not polyamorous and some polyamorists who are not UUs. People who are
neither UUs nor polyamorous are welcome also. Diversity in our discussions
makes them all the more interesting.
Getting Started
Tom and Jasmine, members of
First
Unitarian Church of Louisville Kentucky, attended the UUA
General Assembly in Nashville Tennessee in June of 2000. While at General
Assembly, we attended an organizational meeting of Unitarian
Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA). On arrival back home,
we formed a local chapter, in ministry to the several polyamorous UUs in
our home congregation. Our first meeting was held in September of 2000.
UUPA is an autonomous organization. First Unitarian Church of Louisville
Kentucky does not sponsor this UUPA chapter, nor does it endorse polyamory.
Why We Started This Chapter
Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA) has as its Mission
to serve the Unitarian Universalist Association and the community of polyamorous
people within and outside the UUA by providing support, promoting education,
and encouraging spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory. The purposes of
the UUPA Louisville Chapter are:
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to create safe space in our church for polyamorous UUs and friends to come out of
the closet;
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to provide information about polyamory and discussion opportunities to UUs and
friends; and
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to explore the connection between relationships and spirituality.
What Are Your Meetings Like?
We meet for a facilitated discussion one evening each month
at First
Unitarian Church of Louisville KY, at the corner of Fourth and York.
First Unitarian Church of Louisville Kentucky does not sponsor this UUPA
chapter, nor does it endorse polyamory.
We begin with a reading and chalice lighting, and then take a few minutes
for business. Next we share ideas and experiences and explore the many
issues raised by responsible multi-partner relationships. Occasionally
we have a potluck dinner. For information, email
Jasmine.
Guidelines for Behavior
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We affirm the inherent worth and dignity of each person; people attending
UUPA meetings are expected to behave accordingly.
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Information shared in the group is confidential, not to be repeated outside
the group.
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Names of people who attend are confidential, not to be repeated outside
the group.
Topics we've covered include:
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The Spectrum of Poly
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Changing Boundaries: How to Say No After You've Said Yes
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Poly Holidays
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Long Distance Relationships
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Coming Out
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Spirituality and Relationships
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Non-sexual Polyamory
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Time Management
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Children of Poly Families
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The Youth Perspective
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Jealousy
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Poly Books and Movies
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Poly and Community
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Personal Poly Stories
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Question and Answer Time
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Safety
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"When Two Won't Do" Video
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The Youth Perspective
Future topic ideas
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Different Drummers
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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
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Compersion
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Being Outed
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Promiscuity or Chastity: Is There a Middle Ground?
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Boundaries
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Trust
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Finding Polys
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Open and Closed Relationships
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Polygamy: Is It Polyamory?
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Legal Issues for Polys
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Relationship Styles
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Poly and the Church: What Will the Neighbors Think?
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Marginalizing Our Own
UUPA Membership
Membership in the UUPA Louisville Chapter is open to anyone who affirms alignment
with the Chapter's Mission Statement and with the
Principles
and Purposes of Unitarian Universalism.
Membership in the international UUPA is open to anyone who affirms alignment with the UUPA
Mission Statement and with the
Principles and Purposes of Unitarian Universalism.
Membership in the UUPA is confidential.
To become a member of UUPA, print the membership
application form, or write to:
UUPA
2111 Lido Circle
Stockton CA 95207-6014
or email uupa at uupa.org.
UUPA Louisville Chapter
Mission Statement
The mission of Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness, Louisville Chapter,
is to serve members and friends of First Unitarian Church by providing support,
promoting education, and encouraging spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory.
adopted Aug. 28, 2003
Unitarian
Universalist Association
Principles and Purposes
The Principles of the Unitarian Universalist Association
We, the member congregations of the Unitarian Universalist
Association, covenant to affirm and promote:
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The inherent worth and dignity of every person;
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Justice, equity and compassion in human relations;
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Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our
congregations;
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A free and responsible search for truth and meaning;
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The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our
congregations and in society at large;
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The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;
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Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.
The living tradition which we share draws from many
sources:
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Direct experience of that transcending mystery and wonder, affirmed in
all cultures, which moves us to a renewal of the spirit and an openness
to the forces which create and uphold life;
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Words and deeds of prophetic women and men which challenge us to confront
powers and structures of evil with justice, compassion, and the transforming
power of love;
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Wisdom from the world's religions which inspires us in our ethical and
spiritual life;
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Jewish and Christian teachings which call us to respond to God's love by
loving our neighbors as ourselves;
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Humanist teachings which counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and
the results of science, and warn us against idolatries of the mind and
spirit;
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Spiritual teachings of earth_centered traditions which celebrate the sacred
circle of life and instruct us to live in harmony with the rhythms of nature.
Grateful for the religious pluralism which enriches and ennobles our faith,
we are inspired to deepen our understanding and expand our vision. As free
congregations we enter into this covenant, promising to one another our
mutual trust and support.
The Purposes of the Unitarian Universalist Association
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The Unitarian Universalist Association shall devote its resources to and
exercise its corporate powers for religious, educational and humanitarian
purposes. The primary purpose of the Association is to serve the needs
of its member congregations, organize new congregations, extend and strengthen
Unitarian Universalist institutions and implement its principles.
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Nothing herein shall be deemed to infringe upon the individual freedom
of belief which is inherent in the Universalist and Unitarian heritages
or to conflict with any statement of purpose, covenant, or bond of union
used by any society unless such is used as a creedal test.
Update 9-28-2004