Re: Promiscuity Bashing WAS: Re: [UUPoly-L] poly & pop culture

["Maka Laughingwolf" <maka@riseup.net>]

<grin> GMTA, 'Storm. It makes me *so* angry when poly people tell me
(or I read them quoted somewhere saying) that it's not okay for me to
be poly AND a slut. Quite frankly, I've stopped using the
"polyamorous" label as often, and have considered dropping its use
altogether because I don't want myself boxed in by that definition of
poly.

I don't generally have sex with people who aren't my friends or at
least more-than-just-acquaintances. But sometimes I have sex with
somebody just one time and either we discuss and decide not to do that
again (as happened on a drunken night with my best friend) or the
opportunity just doesn't seem to present itself again (as happened a
few months ago with another friend). Are those one-night stands? Who
CARES? I don't. I love, and I lust, and I kiss, and I cuddle, and I
fuck. Whoever. I. Want. To. (Assuming they want to as well, of
course!) I don't worry about whether or not I am fitting into
somebody's perfect picture of poly life. GRRR.

On 2/22/06, Moonstorm Erosong <mnstrm@erosong.net> wrote:
> "Other defenders point to the fact that practicing "polys" don't engage in
> one-night stands."
>
> Oh, really?  My impression is that some of us do and some of us don't.  I
> hope that some time we will stop trying to justify ourselves to the
> mainstream by dissing the promiscuous, which, quite frankly, some of us
> are.


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~ Maka

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