Re:[UUPoly-L] Female Submissives

["Desmond Ravenstone" <gentlemonster@lycos.com>]

> I can't speak to the male Dom motivation.  (Any male Doms out there
> care to add your two cents?)

OK I'll take this on.  Male doms, and doms in general (which also includes a few transgender doms I know who like to switch gender roles/personae) have many different styles and motivations.  There are the "artist" types, who primarily see being a dom as a craft with a focus on skill and imagination.  There are the "lover" types, who see giving/sharing erotic pleasure and fulfilling fantasies as the primary motivation.  There are the "mentor" types, who are primarily motivated by teaching and guiding a submissive -- and in many cases newbie doms as well -- in BDSM, self-discovery, etc.  Most doms I know draw from more than one such archetype, and have multiple motivations.  But the best all share a sense of responsibility in what they/we do.

I like to sum up how I interact with someone in a BDSM context this way:
When a submissive entrusts me with power and control, that is her gift to me.  What I do with that power and control is my gift to her.

> Two strikes which combined leave me with very little to go on.  What I
> have gotten out of this is the emphasis on communication and informed
> consent.

Very true, and I like to call that the BDSM community's gift to the larger world.

Desmond Ravenstone

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