From jsu627@earthlink.net Wed Oct 7 14:20:37 2009 Received: from pop-savannah.atl.sa.earthlink.net (pop-savannah.atl.sa.earthlink.net [207.69.195.69]) by msb.ernest-doss.org (8.12.11/8.12.11) with ESMTP id n97IKbIn010484 for ; Wed, 7 Oct 2009 14:20:37 -0400 Received: from user-38lmb59.cable.mindspring.com ([209.91.44.169] helo=john.earthlink.net) by pop-savannah.atl.sa.earthlink.net with esmtp (Exim 3.36 #1) id 1Mvb4G-00038I-01 for uupoly-l@uupa.org; Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:16:52 -0400 X-Vipre-Scanned: 08B2470000153A08B2484D-TDI X-Mailer: QUALCOMM Windows Eudora Version 7.1.0.9 To: uupoly-l@uupa.org From: John Ullman In-Reply-To: References: Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii"; format=flowed Message-Id: Subject: [UUPoly-L] New Article: What If Marriage Is Bad For Us? X-BeenThere: uupoly-l@uupa.org X-Mailman-Version: 2.1.8 Precedence: list Reply-To: uupoly-l@uupa.org List-Id: List-Unsubscribe: , List-Archive: List-Post: List-Help: List-Subscribe: , Date: Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:20:38 -0000 X-Original-Date: Wed, 07 Oct 2009 11:16:21 -0700 X-List-Received-Date: Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:20:38 -0000 This is in the current issue of Chronicle of Higher Education. I saw it on the Alternatives to Marriage Project ATMP-TALK list. (To subscribe to ATMP-TALK, send a message to LISTSERV@LISTS.NETSPACE.ORG that says (in the message text) SUB ATMP-TALK. ) http://chronicle.com/article/What-if-Marriage-Is-Bad-for/48640/ Since it is a pay per view article, I've taken a paragraph to give you the gist of it. The overall idea is that marriage might not really provide the benefits it's supporters tout, and a lot of people seem to have figured that out. What If Marriage Is Bad For Us? by Laurie Essig and Lynn Owens, sociology faculty at Middlebury College Too often we are presented with the false choice between a lifelong, loving marriage and a lonely, unmarried life. But those are far from the only options. We should consider the way people actually live: serial monogamy, polyamory, even polygamy. Instead of "blaming the victims" for failing to adopt the formative lifestyles of the white and middle class, we should consider that those avoiding marriage might know exactly what they are doing. Marriage is not necessarily good for all of us, and it might even be bad for most of us. When there is broad, seemingly unanimous support for an institution, and when the institution is propped up by such disparate ideas as love, civil rights, and wealth creation, we should wonder why so many different players seem to agree so strongly. Perhaps it's because they are supporting not just marriage but also the status quo. John U From alanmacrobert@gmail.com Thu Oct 8 12:52:31 2009 Received: from mail-ew0-f223.google.com (mail-ew0-f223.google.com [209.85.219.223]) by msb.ernest-doss.org (8.12.11/8.12.11) with ESMTP id n98GqU7Q020627 for ; Thu, 8 Oct 2009 12:52:30 -0400 Received: by ewy23 with SMTP id 23so6397468ewy.26 for ; Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:52:27 -0700 (PDT) MIME-Version: 1.0 Sender: alanmacrobert@gmail.com Received: by 10.211.154.17 with SMTP id g17mr8298840ebo.32.1255020747144; Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:52:27 -0700 (PDT) X-Google-Sender-Auth: 3858cdb9e78a3fbf Message-ID: From: alan7388 To: uupoly-l@uupa.org Content-Type: text/plain; charset=ISO-8859-1 X-Content-Filtered-By: Mailman/MimeDel 2.1.8 Subject: [UUPoly-L] Poly Pride Picnic/Rally in NYC this Saturday: anyone else going? X-BeenThere: uupoly-l@uupa.org X-Mailman-Version: 2.1.8 Precedence: list Reply-To: uupoly-l@uupa.org List-Id: List-Unsubscribe: , List-Archive: List-Post: List-Help: List-Subscribe: , Date: Thu, 08 Oct 2009 16:52:31 -0000 X-Original-Date: Thu, 8 Oct 2009 12:52:25 -0400 X-List-Received-Date: Thu, 08 Oct 2009 16:52:31 -0000 I'm going to be at the Poly Pride Picnic and Rally in New York's Central Park this Saturday afternoon. (In fact I'm even getting the mike for 5 minutes.) Is anyone else here going? http://www.poly-nyc.com/priderally/index.html Alan M.