Re: [UUPoly-L] UUCA: welcoming congregation

[Kathleen Reedy <icescience@yahoo.com>]

Love it!

wabaldwin@aol.com wrote:  Okay, I guess we're doing the "Analogy Thing".

;^)

I like to drink tea. But I don't always want to drink tea. I like some teas and don't like other teas. I like tea at certain times of the day (but not all times). I only drink a certain amount of tea each day. I don't drink tea constantly.

If someone else drank other tea or drank it at different times or places than I do, I wouldn't mind.

But I assert my own freedom to choose when and where I drink the tea, what kind of tea I drink, and how often. If someone wants to drink tea with me, and I don't feel like it, I might say "No Thank You" -- while still agreeing that tea is a wonderful drink.

I do like tea, but I don't know that I would say that tea was "inherently good". It's just tea. But I do feel I'm "tea-positive" -- and I do enjoy tea.

I've just read the above over again -- and it pretty well describes my relationship with sex, too.

Comments?

Bill (drinking a morning cup of "Prince of Wales" tea...fyi..)
(ps -- UUPoly -- and UUs generally -- definitely an interesting "cool" place to hang out. I've often wondered, who *wouldn't* UU's allow to join their congregations? For myself, I would definitely allow in polys, swingers, BDSM, and so on. As, I think, would many of you. We've had all of the above at our South Bay Poly meetings. Hoping my "ps" doesn't turn out to be more important than my original message above...)


-----Original Message-----
From: earthfather@cfnc.us
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Sent: Fri, 1 Dec 2006 5:40 AM
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] UUCA: welcoming congregation



> -----Original Message-----
> From: WABaldwin@aol.com

> In no way do I think that sex per se is bad.
> 
> So, even though I don't think sex is always a good idea, I do think that sex
> is a wonderful activity -- and so I consider myself sex-positive.

For me, being sex-positive means that sex is *inherently* good; but there are
"outside" factors that can make a particular sexual situation not the best
choice, such as significant danger to one's health, a violation of one's
commitments, etc. 

Think about giving someone a shoulder rub (consensually, of course): it is
*inherently* a loving act, giving pleasure to another, as well as the pleasure
of seeing the delight you can deliver. The shoulder rub is *inherently* a good
thing, and unless some outside factor radically alters the nature of the
interaction, it is a mitzvah, a sacrament, an expression of agape.

Likewise with sex: I assume that each mutually consensual sexual opportunity
is a plus, a gift to both parties, a precious opportunity.


Michael Rios


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