Re: [UUPoly-L] UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 26, Issue 25

[JT Moore <ultrajanus@yahoo.com>]

Laura,

Loved your note.  It reminded me of a phone exchange I
had some years back with a lady who had answered an ad
I had placed in the In Search Of (ISO) section of the
Washington Post.  It turned out she was a married lady
from Potomac, a very exclusive DC suburb, looking for
a relationship on the side.  When I told her that I
was interested in an open relationship, she replied
tartly that she wasn't interested in swinging.  I
replied sweetly that, for my part, I wasn't the one
planning to cheat on my spouse.  We left it at that.

John (another "lurker")
 
> > From: "Laura Stewart" <lonelocust@gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] UUCA: welcoming congregation
> Date: Thu, 30 Nov 2006 20:19:52 -0700
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> 
> I would also point out that in fact some poly people
> *do* sleep
> around.  Some largely monogamous people sleep around
> (ie swingers).
> And frankly, as consenting adults, we don't need an
> excuse to have sex
> outside of marriage.  We don't need an excuse to
> sleep around.
> Educating people about the difference in swingers
> and poly people is
> important.  Educating people about the existance of
> polyfidelity is
> important.  But it's also important to not take on
> the attitude of "Oh
> no!  I only engage in committed relationships- not
> like those dirty
> swingers who are just in it for the sex."
> 
> Poly is about love, but we don't need to excuse
> ourselves by
> villanizing sex, even casual sex.  It's not for
> everyone, but being
> sex positive does, I believe, mean that one should
> acknowledge the
> beauty in whatever forms of sexual expression others
> decide to engage
> in.
> 
> (Also, hi, I'm new.  I've been lurking for a while.)
> 
> -Laura


 
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