Re: [UUPoly-L] I like Laura's idea

["Les Addison" <les@weirdness.org>]

I like the notion.

and you're right...I think of BDSM as being like anal sex....some people
like it, some don't.  Some seem wired for it (e.g., to have their prostates
well-placed for this) and others done.  I don't see it as an orientation
akin to "one" or "many" and "men", "women" or "both".

(though I get the alliance of  "you may not love like this, but respect that
it is love")

Les

On 12/1/06, Laura Stewart <lonelocust@gmail.com> wrote:
> Well, while you could add BDSM (and any number of other things), I
> don't know that it's really related.  If we're talking about a
> monogamy/non-monogamy scale, I don't think it's that relevant.  If you
> disagree, I'd love to hear the reasoning.  Also, the triangular chart
> model doesn't really work anymore if you make it into other polygons.
>
> I would see a triangle with complete monogamy on one tip, polyfidelity
> on one tip, and strich strangers-only swinging on one tip.  (This
> would leave out cheating and dishonest relationships in general.)  One
> side would essentially measure the relationship's openness to
> additional love, and one side the relationship's openness to aditional
> sex.
>
> Do people know what I'm talking about with the triangular chart?  I
> think they're neat.  And I have a thing for charts.  They're fun.
>
> -Laura
>
> On 12/1/06, Doug Walters <dougwalt1@comcast.net> wrote:
> > Thanks Laura for knocking my head enough to get me out of a linear line
> of
> > thinking.  A triangle?  Well what about a square and then we can add
> BDSM.
> > And then what I really like is a 3 or 4 sided pyrimid with relationship
> > commitment being the vertical scale.  But then what would be at the tip?
> > Everything but nothing.  Less is more?  Would that be the enlighted
> cylibit
> > existence where physical form is no long a necessity?
> >
> > I can see I will have fun playing with the possibilities.  Thanks Laura.
> >
> > Doug in Portland, OR
> >
> >
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