[UUPoly-L] Triangulation

["David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>]

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[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of Keith
Brown
Sent: Monday, December 04, 2006 1:08 PM
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Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Thank you Desmond Ravenstone

<I'm seeing your triangle as having all the domain within it.  Monogamy,
full on Polyamory, and sex-anything swinging being the corners.  Polyfi
would be half way along the mono-poly edge.

I really don't see much difference between polyfi and monogamy, just the N
is >2. Otherwise the rules seem the same. In my world, poly is a long way
from polyfi, except both are defying the cultural order of things.



<But I find myself somewhere out in the middle.  I don't swing, but I do
have casual sex with close friends sometimes.  We don't call ourselves
lovers, at least not in any ongoing sense, but we're definitely friends with
privileges.  That would pull me a little ways off the poly corner out into
the open toward swinging.

<And yet, I, from time to time, label myself "coincidentally monogamous."
By this I mean, if I'm enthralled with the one I'm with, I'm not too much
interesting in sexing anyone else.  If it happens, well, cool.  But I'm
anything but a advertisement for "do me."  This would pull me over to the
mono corner a bit.

<So here I am, out in the middle of the triangle... enjoying the heck out of
myself, getting my needs met, loving life.  <<super grin>>

-Keith

And a good example of why we should let each one define themselves, or
undefine themselves, altho I agree that for research and theory we need some
useful definitions. We just need to not apply them to real people.

Dave