Re: [UUPoly-L] Too many circles, lines, triangles.....

["Earth Father" <earthfather@cfnc.us>]

> -----Original Message-----
> From: David VanHorn

> > This again becomes a matter of opinion and boundries. I do not consider
> > anyone that I am not sexual with to be someone with whom I am in a
> > "relationship" (using the narrower term usually meaning 'romantic', but
> > not necessarily including love or any real romance).
> 
> 
> Perhaps the right focus is that you COULD be sexual with them.
> 
> Take me for example, I am now sexual with my wife, and my OSO K.
> But if I were to have a medical problem that prevented me from being sexual
> at all (as in intercourse), would I then no longer be poly?   "many loves"
> it says, not "many sex".
> 
> I don't count all my good friends within polyamory either.

Exactly.  The kind of non-sexual relationship that I would consider poly is far
more intense than most friendships would even contemplate.  It occurs to me
that if I were in a monogamous relationship, my mono partner would probably
object to my having this kind of relationship with someone else-- even though
it doesn't involve explicit sex.

One factor is that a non-sexual poly relationship would usually be someone who
would be taken into account in major life decisions, etc., in a way that is not
usually done with ordinary friendships.

Michael Rios