Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Def

["Fantine" <fantine@sonic.net>]

Sounds like you are agreeing with me.  What distinction
did you want to make?

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Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Def


> >From: "Fantine" <fantine@sonic.net>

> >Romantic love, in my dictionary, implies sexual
> >attraction.  I don't believe sexual attraction,
whether
> >acted upon or not, can be omitted from the
definition
> >of poly.  There are obviously many definitions of
love,
> >but polyamory is about romantic love.


On Wed, 6 Dec 2006, Timothy McKee top-posted;

> Indeed my mileage varies as two women who love me do
not particularly like
> the word "romance." And since Carlos Castaneda's
definition of astral sex
> does not necessarily involve any skin contact
whatsoever, even though one
> assume's the missionary position while engaging in it
is it also "not sex"
> as relationships without "romance" may be excluded
from the your view of
> what polyamory is and is not?


Sexual attraction is not sex.  I think maybe you
misread the
post to which you replied; she expressly said, "whether
acted on or not."  Your response seems to indicate that
you
think sex is still implied in the use of "sexual
attraction"
in this definition.

Classical "courtly love" is romance - an epitome of it,
in
many people's opinions.  And it is practiced "chastely,
from
afar," etc.  The key notion about it is that the people
involved *are* (sexually) attracted to each other, but
sublimate all that emotion into activities that, as you
say,
do "not necessarily involve any skin contact
whatsoever."

                            Bear

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A. Yes.
Q. Are you sure?
A. Because it inverts the normal flow of conversation.
Q. Why is top-posting bad?
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