Re: [UUPoly-L] more on the porn/erotica thread

["Married Lesbians" <marriedlesbians@gmail.com>]

As an author who writes and has published a number of trans themed mystery
novels, one actually nominated for a national book award, I would be
interested also in reading your work.  As to your rant I think we fail to
rant enough.  I try to watch the Sat night porn movie on DTV at least in
part because I need a good laugh after the week at work.  I usually find
that although they have better hair than I do, since I don't take the time
they do to work with it, my breasts are better, my skin healthier, and my
orgasms more appreciated if although more internal.  Stay real and stay
ranting.  Gypsey

On 12/19/07, Kathleen Reedy <icescience@yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> Valerie
> I'd love to read your book!  Good rant.
> Kathleen
>
> Valerie White <valerie@valeriewhite.org> wrote:
> While I was a consulting editor to "The Humanist" magazine, my charge
> was soliciting contributions from women, as the mag was aware that
> women writers had been under-represented. Accordingly, when I met
> Nadine Strossen (ACLU president) at a Vermont Law School function, I
> asked her if she would write something for "The Humanist". She said
> graciously that she would think about it, but I was nonetheless a bit
> surprised when I received, some time later, an article from her.
>
> It was a chapter from her next book. And the thesis was, that women
> have more to lose from a culture which practices censorship than from
> a culture which tolerates "pornography". I think she was right.
>
> For one thing, laws designed to "protect" women from objectification
> and exploitation in porn are in fact too often employed against
> feminist enterprises in which explicit discussion of sexuality
> (Think, "Our Bodies, Ourselves") is part of their mission. For
> another, many women feel that writing or performing or reading or
> watching sexually explicit material is a part of their sexual
> expression, and they have a right to revel in that expression.
>
> If you're concerned about exploitation, pass laws that protect sex
> workers . . . don't ban the medium.
>
> Now, I'm in agreement with the poster who said some sexually explicit
> material is a turn-on and some isn't. (I sincerely hope it CAN be
> because I've written a strongly feminist highly erotic novel. Anyone
> want to read it?)
>
> One thing I hold against a lot of mainstream porn is that it creates
> unrealistic expectations in inexperienced boys about what women are
> actually LIKE in sex. I have never seen a porno movie in which a
> woman had an obvious orgasm. A boy who expects his sex partner to
> behave like a porn star is going to be REALLY surprised and taken
> aback when his partner (if she is lucky enough!) stiffens out,
> becomes oblivious, shudders, grimaces, and gets a flush all over her
> chest! And when she discourages his caresses in the immediate aftermath.
>
> For that matter, HE's not going to find he can perform the way he
> THINKS the studs in the x-rated video perform . . . he doesn't
> realize how many different "takes" are spliced together to make the movie.
>
> And most REAL women have blemishes. They have hairs around their
> nipples, or stretch marks on their thighs. There is some gray in
> their pubic hair. (Horrors!) They have moles. They have
> zits. They carry some extra fat, or they are bony, or they are
> bowlegged, or have wrinkles. You know what? They fart
> sometimes. They have to get up and go pee. They don't often really
> get transported into ecstasy by smearing semen all over their faces.
> They are BEAUTIFUL but they are not like the depillated,
> silicone-augmented, concealer-treated, made-up, carefully coifed
> women in the videos.
>
> How's that for a rant? My computer is going to warn me that this
> message may be offensive.
>
> But, no matter how much we may be repulsed by sexually explicit
> material, we MUST NOT censor it if we value our freedom. People who
> don't like it don't have to look at it.
>
> Valerie
>
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