Re: [UUPoly-L] old vs. new relationships?

["Brigitte Fires" <brigittefires@gmail.com>]

> > 'monogamy mind-set' expects/allows primary r'ships to be changed
> > 'poly mind-set' doesn't.
>
> So, I really have no idea what you mean by tha last statement

I also seem to be un-hip to what that last was supposed to mean. Poly
mindsets can allow for primary partners to change, and for those of us who
don't wait until we're married to be poly, there is no reason why changing
of primaries would not be an option.

Moreover, the monogamy mindset implies that the primary partner is not
changing--there's a reason why monogamist marriage vows include the line
forsaking all others, and even after divorce there are many who abide by
that line.

Brigitte Fires