>>My conclusion is that to a straight mono person, the idea of someone
they know being bi or gay isn't particularly threatening because to their
way of thinking their own partner is perceived to be unlikely to ever up
and declare "honey, I think I'm gay." <<
Whoa! I have got to point out here that I have had a completely different
experience..........Most people I know are very threatened by my being Bi,
even when they know I have a partner. I got fired because ,coworkers
"Wonder if you are getting turned on holding hands during morning prayer."
These were straight women. ( BTW, ewwwwwwwwww and YUCK!)
YMMV
Kathryn