[UUPoly-L] Coming Out Poly--one UU at a time

["Lisa Z. Morgan" <lisamorgan@lairhaven.com>]

I am very gradually, as the situation comes up, "coming out" as a poly to
members of my congregation. Neither of the others in our "N" relationship go
to church, so they are only "present" when I talk about my family. If I
refer to my wife's other wife my name and people ask me who she is, I tell
them she's my wife's other wife. Some take a moment to digest then change
the subject, some shrug it off as "cool, we're all different" and continue
the conversational flow, and some ask "so, how does that work, anyway?" (I
suspect many well-meaning people imagine that every poly relationship is
about multiple sexual partners at the same time.)

But the value is that one person is able to see YOU, not just the label you
have presented as a partial definition of youeself, whereas a group of
people might not. So I think it is valuable to have the booths at GA so
people know we are out there, then to let our own communities know that we
are not just "out there" but "right here."

(I apologize for all the quoted phrases--I am trying to convey inflection
and tone via text.)

Lisa