Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Not As Fun As Cheating

["David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>]

Who is cheating in a marriage where the husband refuses to have sex with the
wife, and she has sex with a man in a reciprocal situation. Two
"relationships" stay together (for the kids????) and at least two people are
happy. Actually, all four are.

Is it more important to uphold a "relationship" where the marriage vows have
been broken, or to find love without putting two families through the trauma
and cost of divorce?

Which is more important, ethics or caring behavior? Is it ethical to hurt
people when that isn't necessary? 

I really am not interested in hearing anyone else's answers to these
questions, they are only to state my view that honesty has its limits. To
hell with radical honesty, I believe in radical loving.

Dave Hall, not one of the other Daves

-----Original Message-----
From: uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org
[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of
Catherine Deville
Sent: Sunday, July 01, 2007 12:20 PM
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Not As Fun As Cheating

Dave said:
<<While cheating is looked down upon by poly folk, sometimes it is the best
way to keep life on an even keel, and is the most ethical way to solve
multiple conflicting goals. >>

I would have to disagree with that statement... from my ethical base
cheating is *never* ethical, and therefore can never be the "most ethical
way to solve multiple conflicting goals".  Cheating, from my ethic, is
*always* hurtful and dishonorable. 

NT,
Cat


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