Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Not As Fun As Cheating

[<catdeville@cox.net>]

---- WABaldwin@aol.com wrote: 
>  
> I find it very problematical to talk about "marriage vows being broken", 
> unless we know for certain what those marriage vows were.

I completely agree.
 
> Everybody assumes the "marriage vows" included vows of monogamy.  Personally, 
> at my own Unitarian Universalist wedding, I don't recall making any such 
> promises of monogamy.  (Of course, it was quite some time ago -- 1979 -- but since 
> I already felt "poly" at the time -- even though I didn't have that word for 
> it -- I would have been very aware of any promise of monogamy by either me or 
> my wife).

Both of my marriages were poly marriages, and we decided that before getting married.  Neither of my wedding services included any reference to monogamy or sexual exclusivity of any type - in both cases we wrote our own vows and specifically and intentioanally did not include references to monogamy or sexual exclusivity or "cleaving only unto..."

NT, 
Cat