I've been officiating at weddings for more than 15 years . . . and
almost all of the couples have written their own vows.
Somewhat off topic . . . learning that Rev. Fred Small (Littleton,
MA) was refusing to sign marriage certificates so long as same-sex
couples couldn't marry, I decided that I wasn't willing to go quite
that far (tho I admired his stance). I decided instead to ask each
couple I married if they would let me include in their ceremony
something along the lines of, "At this special time let us hold in
our hearts our gay and Lesbian brothers and sisters, who do not have
the privilege enjoyed by John and Mary today, to marry the people they love.