[UUPoly-L] And yet another blog posting

["Doug Walters" <dougwalt1@comcast.net>]

Hi Bill and thanks for your thoughts.

And yes I think your questions are very valid and there have been many 
excellent books written in the past 20 years addressing in part you 
questions.

Perhaps you have just begun to make an outline for another book.

Sound bits is what makes the point however in the press and with a lot of 
people.

First of all monogamy works for a lot of people.  Good for them.

People have different needs and are wired differently.  I'm left handed, 
have a thing for understanding technology, and do numbers, in spite of be 
dislectic.  Can not spell for crap however.  I write shapes of words rather 
than spelling them out.  Email and a keyboard are a challenge.  Thank God 
for spell check but I select that look right and so my emails can be quite 
amousing to people that thing there is only one way to spell a sound.

My way of approaching relationships is also different.  I love my wife and 
family.  I love that my wife finds some of her need meet with others, that 
I'm not interested in trying to satisfy.

I happy that my approach to relationship is respected by a group of people 
that recognize the value of not having to be the one person that satisfies 
all of our partners needs.

I think that if we start from the position that all people, each of us, are 
unique.  We have different past experiences and genes and hopes for the 
future.  That we each can find a place where we are valued in our uniqueness 
and needs and wants and desires and passions and fantacies.  However these 
are expressed in the way we contribute to the world, express our sexuality, 
the way we form our families.

My favorite heroen is still Victoria Woodall.  She wrote in 1871:
"Yes, I am a Free Lover. I have an inalienable, constitutional and natural 
right to love whom I may, to love as long or as short a period as I can; to 
change that love every day if I please, and with that right neither you nor 
any law you can frame have any right to interfere. And I have the further 
right to demand a free and unrestricted exercise of that right, and it is 
your duty not only to accord it, but, as a community, to see that I am 
protected in it. I trust that I am fully understood, for I mean just that, 
and nothing less!" And the Truth Shall Make You Free (November 20, 1871)

Victorian feminist Victoria Woodhull (1838-1927), the first woman to run for 
presidency in the U.S. in 1872 with Fredrick Douglass as her running mate.

Her life history is both fun to read and informative of how to and how to 
not push forward new social thought.

Doug Walters
Portland, Or