Re: [UUPoly-L] [RE] UU ministers, open marriages and poly commitment ceremonies

["David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>]

As has been stated by Jas, marriage is not our focus, inclusion and opening
dialog is the goal. Ministers can, and will, officiate as they choose. But
of course, nobody is legally married until the signed license is filed at
the courthouse by the officiant. At core, legal marriage is a government
thing. Spiritual marriage is up to the 2 or more of us, and no minister is
needed to give it, or can take that away.

-----Original Message-----
From: uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org
[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of Desmond
Ravenstone
Sent: Monday, July 09, 2007 5:28 PM
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Subject: [UUPoly-L] [RE] UU ministers,open marriages and poly commitment
ceremonies

   Is starting a discussion of whether UU ministers might conduct
non-legally
   binding commitment ceremonies for more than two, just as surely many do
   for same-sex couples, too big a bite to bite off for UUPA at this point?

   Keep in mind that there is also the congregation's awareness and openness
   to consider. A minister might agree to perform the ceremony, and have the
   right to do so, but it does not necessarily follow that the
congregation's
   leadership would be equally open to having that ceremony performed in
   their sanctuary.

   I think our first priority is to raise awareness within our respective
   congregations, both about what poly is really about, and what our
pastoral
   and spiritual needs are. This means not only reaching out to our
   ministers, but to our lay leaders as well.

   To the UUPA Board -- do we have educational materials addressed
   specifically to UU ministers, DREs and lay leaders which UUPA members and
   friends could use for engaging people in this process?

   Desmond Ravenstone

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