Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Not As Fun As Cheating

[Anita Wagner <imapolygirl@yahoo.com>]

I think it is very safe to say that even without vowing to foresake all others, in our culture there is such an assumption that this is what two people do when they get married that people don't even think about it with any intentionality.  In fact, it is likely the grand assumption of all assumptions.  
   
  I think many people, once married, heave a sigh of relief somewhere in their emotional makeup, believing that this person now belongs to them, is all theirs, that they have exclusive rights to the person.  Heck, this is often true even when they cohabitate, or even when they've been seeing each other for more than, say, six months, that unless there has been a clear, straightforward discussion that says things are to be to the contrary, to societal norms, then the assumption is that they are consistent with them.
   
  Anita 


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