Re: [UUPoly-L] Friends (Quakers), sexuality and polyamory...what would you say to this?

["Kelly Cookson" <kc62301@hotmail.com>]

> I worry that some people will use the results of studies showing a low 
> probability of success to proscribe the activity - essentially to support 
> the forcible norming that is one of the things we're trying to get past.

Why would you want to promote something to a majority when the majority does 
not want to try it and probably would not succeed at it anyway? I wouldn't 
encourage the majority of children to let their studies slide so they can 
work harder on becoming professional athletes. Only a few people have the 
combination of skills and natural abilities to become professional athletes. 
On the other hand, when an individual child makes the decision to pursue 
sports at the expense of her or his grades, I wouldn't want that child 
expelled from school and treated as if she or he were mentally ill. The 
child might fail to reach the goal of becoming a professional athlete, and 
might even regret having let her or his studiies slide. But the child has 
the freedom to learn that lesson. Plus, the child just might suprise 
everyone and become a professional athlete.

I agree with you. Open marriage is a minority rights issue.

> I agree that it's not a lifestyle I'd recommend to the merely curious, 
> though
> the line between simply speaking positively of it and recommending it seems 
> pretty fine to me.

Which is why I've come to inject a hefty dose of pessimism when talking 
about open marriage to people who are not in them.  ;-)

Kelly

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