[UUPoly-L] Poly Not As Fun As Cheating

[Fritz Neumann <fritzcat66@yahoo.com>]

Thanks so much for these updates, 'Storm!!!

One thing you relayed rang a bell for me: "Another man with a European accent
seemed to feel that polyamory couldn't possibly be as much fun as cheating."

I have actually heard this argument frequently of late. And being said
certainly with a serious tone. It comes in other similar forms, like, "Oh,
you're just talking about what people have always done - you're just trying to
sap all the fun and excitement out of it."

I must admit, I really don't have a good, quick, response to this reaction. I
mean, I could get into an extended discussion about honesty in relationships,
how cheating spreads STD risks to unknowing partners, and so on... but
ultimately, those seem long-winded responses that don't address the central
issue of "fun" and how polyamory can drain it.

Because of course there is some truth to it... I feel we polyfolk are simply
aware that the costs of that kind of "fun" are just too high, and that
responsible behavior, while often a more difficult road, is ultimately more
rewarding and better on our conscience.

However, again, even this kind of response starts sapping the "fun" away...

Any suggestions? I'm looking for a SHORT, concise, effective comeback to this
charge.

  >*< Fritz