[UUPoly-L] Coming out as Poly at work: Need Feedback.

["Paola Suarez-Papp" <paola.suarezpapp@gmail.com>]

Hey everyone,

I really don't know where else to get advice about this. This is my first
time posting so if this is off topic please let me know.

Yesterday I almost outed myself as poly at work or so I thought.

One of my co-workers was talking about WoW (World of Warcraft) and how
addictive it is. Without even thinking about it I shared how I used to date
a guy who was so obsessed with it that he would play it while I was right
there waiting to hang out with him. And then he asked me, "When was this?" I
said, "I don't know 2 years ago maybe? When WoW came out." Still oblivious
to what I was doing. He then said to me, "Weren't you dating or married to
your husband at that time?" I totally forgot that I had shared at work that
Alex and I have been togther for 9 years (this August).

DUH..Part of me the part that hates this cloak & dagger sh*t and just wants
to be honest was like perfect opportunity to just say it..I'm poly!

The other part froze and said, "It's complicated."

I then tried to recover since everyone had overheard the conversation.
Thinking that this coworker had figured me out I wrote him an email
explaining to him that Alex and I are poly.

Well to my chagrin he replied that he had just thought that Alex and I had
been separated at that point.

DUH

The fact that I didn't think of that. I don't know what it means.

I guess my share is because I want advice on coming out at work? Good? Bad?
Ugly?

I work at a very large company that is very safe concerning LGBT issues.
There's a lot of out folks and part of me feels that being poly would be
accepted as well.

I just don't know.

Like I said part of me is just tired of this cloak and dagger sh*t.

To make the connection to UU this is something that plagues me as well about
not being out at my church. I'm only out to my minister and 3 other people
in my welcoming congregation committee. It also happened by chance because
we were talking about gay marriage rights and someone brought up poly and it
really wasn't being defined in a good way so I just HAD to step in and give
my 2 cents. So far I haven't had any questions or comments from those 4
folks.

So thoughts about being out as Poly at work and also at church are welcome.

Thanks,
Paola