Re: [UUPoly-L] Coming out as Poly at work: Need Feedback.

["Faith Always" <heryn@hotmail.com>]

  Dear Paola,

  Not long ago, I shared my story about coming out at work. Supposedly, they
  were okay with GLBT issues too. I got fired on a trumped up (false)
  issue...............Unfortunately, I now say CYA.

  Faith

   

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  begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any
  resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to
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  space.
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    From: "Paola Suarez-Papp" <paola.suarezpapp@gmail.com>
    Reply-To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
    To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
    Subject: [UUPoly-L] Coming out as Poly at work: Need Feedback.
    Date: Sat, 3 Mar 2007 11:06:06 -0500
    Hey everyone,

    I really don't know where else to get advice about this. This is my
    first
    time posting so if this is off topic please let me know.

    Yesterday I almost outed myself as poly at work or so I thought.

    One of my co-workers was talking about WoW (World of Warcraft) and how
    addictive it is. Without even thinking about it I shared how I used to
    date
    a guy who was so obsessed with it that he would play it while I was
    right
    there waiting to hang out with him. And then he asked me, "When was
    this?" I
    said, "I don't know 2 years ago maybe? When WoW came out." Still
    oblivious
    to what I was doing. He then said to me, "Weren't you dating or married
    to
    your husband at that time?" I totally forgot that I had shared at work
    that
    Alex and I have been togther for 9 years (this August).

    DUH..Part of me the part that hates this cloak & dagger sh*t and just
    wants
    to be honest was like perfect opportunity to just say it..I'm poly!

    The other part froze and said, "It's complicated."

    I then tried to recover since everyone had overheard the conversation.
    Thinking that this coworker had figured me out I wrote him an email
    explaining to him that Alex and I are poly.

    Well to my chagrin he replied that he had just thought that Alex and I
    had
    been separated at that point.

    DUH

    The fact that I didn't think of that. I don't know what it means.

    I guess my share is because I want advice on coming out at work? Good?
    Bad?
    Ugly?

    I work at a very large company that is very safe concerning LGBT issues.
    There's a lot of out folks and part of me feels that being poly would be
    accepted as well.

    I just don't know.

    Like I said part of me is just tired of this cloak and dagger sh*t.

    To make the connection to UU this is something that plagues me as well
    about
    not being out at my church. I'm only out to my minister and 3 other
    people
    in my welcoming congregation committee. It also happened by chance
    because
    we were talking about gay marriage rights and someone brought up poly
    and it
    really wasn't being defined in a good way so I just HAD to step in and
    give
    my 2 cents. So far I haven't had any questions or comments from those 4
    folks.

    So thoughts about being out as Poly at work and also at church are
    welcome.

    Thanks,
    Paola
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