[UUPoly-L] Benefits of Being Poly

[Carrie Vine <cvinex5@yahoo.com>]

  Benefits of Being in the Polyamorous Lifestyle

Learning & growing within yourself & with your partners. This makes
you happier & healthier therefore your relationships are happier &
healthier.

Not running from partner to partner which is called serial monogamy.

Getting the best of partner A & partner B & not having to give up one
just to get the other.

Cutting back on all the cheating & lying that goes on in mainstream
relationships.

Building a community where everyone around you doesn't judge you, is
open & honest.

It takes a village to raise a child.
Guess what... now you have more adults to do just that.

Your children are rarely left home alone.

If you are bi, you don't have to give up one gender for the other.

Most people can't find all the traits they wish for in one partner.

The grass isn't always greener on the other side, there might just be
more plants & flowers over there you weren't aware of. LOL

Financially even though people still have to work in a poly family,
there is more to go around because there are more people contributing.

Worrying about bills isn't as paramount.

As you get older, people start to pass over.

If one partner passes over, you still have other partners there to
take care of each other.
What traits do polyamorous people have?

Traits of a true polyamorous person...

We seek friendship first. We don't run away just because the
relationship won't lead to an intimate romantic partnership.

We also believe that all relationships need the foundation of
friendship to make it strong & keep it healthy.

Communication. We all have issues with communication, but we
acknowledge that & try to learn & expand on our communication skills.

The cornerstone of a healthy poly relationship is COMMUNICATION,
COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION.

Any true poly will tell you that.

We try to be honest & that's with both ourselves & with others.

In our romantic relationships we seek commitment& growth. Growth in
ourselves as well as in our relationships.

Polys are people who feel a true relationship takes effort,
commitment, communication & above average relationship skills. They
don't run from relationships when there are disagreements.

The beauty of being poly is working things through & staying together.

Even though we respect & embrace our sensuality, we are not swingers
or polysexuals, so we don't focus on the sexual or disrespect the
very essence of sexuality & all its glory.

Polys are NOT here for sex or sex play !

We don't consider humans sex objects or seek out people for self
gratification. That's disrespectful of humankind.

Sensuality is something that is left between the partners in that
poly relationship, not to be advertised to the whole world.

Love should be advertised to the whole world.

Our first focus is on the person & who they are inside, what is their
personality like, do they have morals & values.

Beauty is in the eye of each person who holds it ~

We use the words "love", "long term relationships" & commitment when
we talk.

We aren't crude, rude & talk about sex 24/7. We aren't swingers, so
we don't use swinger terms & for the most part, most polyamorous
people would never use the words... slut, whore, queer, fag etc.

These are derogatory & demeaning to a person's character plus in no
way to these words have a positive meaning behind them.

We don't cheat or look for quick flings just because we can.

Polyamorous people have a sense of family about them even if they
don't have children.

Polyamorous people tend to be open minded & above average in
intelligence.

From: http://www.sensualf oryou.com/ poly/benefits. htm



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