[UUPoly-L] Poly definition

[P O <wild_card@sbcglobal.net>]

I have a question that's been bugging me for a while and I thought I'd ask it here to get people's thoughts on it.  How do you define 'polyamory'?
   
  I know there are a lot of definitions out there, and even an official one for the UUPA.  however, i've noticed something they all have in common, a focus on numbers.  Does poly actually require you to be involved in multiple relationships?  Is it possible to be single and poly?  Or even in a married dyad and poly?  I feel like it's asking if you aren't currently dating someone of the same gender are you still gay/ lesbian?  
   
  Anyway, just looking to try to get some feedback on this.  I've been doing a lot of thinking in preparation for the talk I'm giving on Sunday and this is one of the points that's come up a lot in my contemplation.  
   
  Thanks for any thoughts people care to share.
   
  Pat