Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly definition

[wabaldwin@aol.com]

 For myself -- I consider myself "polyamorous" because I seem to feel happier when I'm involved in several relationships rather than just one; and I think that to be happy, long-term, I need to be involved in several deep, long-term commited relationships rather than just one.
   
 For me, it isn't a matter of *thinking* polyamory is better than monogamy -- it just seems to make me happier. When I've tried to live monogamously, it's depressed me.
 
 Bill B.
  
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 Sent: Thu, 17 May 2007 7:01 PM
 Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly definition
 
  Yes, but that's exactly the point Alex is making: those people *aren't* 
polyamorous, even if they believe it is possible for some other people 
to love more than one person--hence, that is a problem with defining 
someone as polyamorous strictly on the basis of philosophy, ie, "A 
person who thinks/believes/feels that it is possible to love more than 
one person".  To be meaningfully described as polyamorous, one must 
believe that it is possible for *oneself* to love more than one person 
at the same time.
Amanda

On May 17, 2007, at 6:45 PM, Brigitte Fires wrote:

> But then those people aren't identifying as being polyamorous. Being 
> allies
> to polyamory and people who practice it doesn't make them any more
> polyamorous than the straight men who march in gay pride parads, or the
> white men who marched for civil rights. You said it yourself, they 
> consider
> themselves monogamous--and who are we to tell them they're poly just 
> because
> they don't disregard it as an option for those who choose or are drawn 
> to
> it?
>
> Brigitte
>
> On 5/17/07, Greenearthal@aol.com <Greenearthal@aol.com> wrote:
>>
>>
>> Focussing the definition on belief/phillosophy  still seems a bit off 
>> to
>> me.
>>
>>     For example, around here, there are a lot of people  --I call them
>> poly
>> allies--
>>     who believe that polyamory is right and good for me  and others 
>> who
>> choose
>>     it.  They firmly believe it can and does work  but consider 
>> themselves
>>     monogamous.
>>
>>     -Alex
>>
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