Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly reality

[polyfi@comcast.net]

>>By that logic, one could ultimately conclude that all marriage should be
outlawed, since some marriages are abusive. 
NT, 
Cat<<

Bite your tongue, Cat, because that sometimes seems to be the "logic" of the market place, in the Land of the Brave, Home of the Free.   For brevity, I'll let others think of some examples.

I've always thought that IF bridges failed at the same rate as modern marriages, then marriage would be outlawed.  Always thought it funny, the joke about "The main cause of divorce, is marriage."

But, back to polyamory reality.  Polyamory was first used and defined in print around 1992 --  15 years ago. 
 I thought by now it would become a household word, and young people would be talking about it as a viable relationship option.  No way, even if the Montell Williams show has discussed it, along with a few other "talk shows."  It's still taboo, and some people must still be "closeted" with their polyamorous relationships, except around other poly people, such as here at UUPA.   I think I heard that the next edition of Webster's Dictionary, will finally include and "define" the word.   I'm sure many here will object to whatever definition it selects, lol.

 In reality, some people will do better with monogamous relationships.  And some people will be more happy living openly (if the could) with polyamorous relationship.  But currently that choice is restricted by traditions and customs, but worse, by laws that favor monogamy over polygamy, or polyamory.   For example, if you have three adults (or four) living as a loving, committed, poly "household", try to claim all 4 on your income tax, for deductions. Not possible, without some legal "incorporation papers".  (I'm not a tax lawyer, so take this just as my opinion)  The maximum various deductions now related to a married "couple", or an adult taking care of disabled parents.

 Yes, legal  children can used as deductions, but my example was for 4 poly adults....  Now, what if these 4 poly adults had 6 children between them, and they have " shared" all expenses.  Tax laws do not allow proration of those expenses among all the taxable incomes in that household.  Normally a child can  be claimed by the "birth certificate" parents. (unless legally adopted).   And if one or more of the  poly household adopted one or more of the children, then the "real" parents would lose right to keep any of the deductions for that child, as I understand it.
So, yes, the reality is, many of  our property and tax laws and inheritance laws,  would have to be re-written, if polyamory was fully accepted/legalized, to give poly households same advantages as monogamous households.  (this is what Gays/Lesbians found out, I believe, you have to change definitions of what is a legitimate household, or marriage).  
My suggestion, is to do away with all such deductions, and things that favor "marriage" and having more children.  Right now, single people or those without children make up the differences in what taxes they pay, for the loss in taxes by our society favoring "one man, one woman" marriage.
Dave