Re: [UUPoly-L] definitions; A NEW WORD NEEDED

[wabaldwin@aol.com]

 People who are members of a group larger than two (a couple) could call themselves a "multiple"...
 
 Bill
    
 -----Original Message-----
 From: catdeville@cox.net
 To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
 Sent: Sat, 19 May 2007 11:14 AM
 Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] definitions; A NEW WORD NEEDED
 
  Dave said:

<<The old poly  "standby" is to call your boyfriends, or girlfriends your
SPICE.  Instead of Spouse, you have Spice.>>

Actually, "spice" is the plural of spouse, and isn't generally used to refer
to "boyfriends or girlfriends" but those in committed relationships which
they consider equivalent to a marriage.

<<The word "couple" refers to just two.  Otherwise, in polyamory, you may
have a Triad (3), or Quad (4), Pent(5), forget what six would be, lol. >>

How can you forget that?  A group of six would be a sex ;-) (sextet)

<<Many people object to being either "primary" or secondary, but I guess you
could say, my "secondary spice", or my "primary spice", in deciding what
level your relationship may have reached with different people. >>

Primary and secondary doesn't refer to spice, it refers to levels of
relationships.  In general, spice are almost always at a 'primary' level of
relationship, as 'secondaries' are generally people with whom you do not
live and share resources or to whom you are not married (legally or
otherwise.)  I don't know of anyone who considers their spice "primary" and
"secondary".  They may refer to "first husband" and "second husband"
(referring to order in which they entered the relationship or "seniority"
within the primary relationship), but we didn't care for that wording either
so we (as usual) fell back on Heinlein and used "Sr. Husband" and "Jr.
Husband(s)". 

NT,
Cat


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