[UUPoly-L] Fw: This woman thinks she knows polyamory...yikes

Tara_Affinity <tara_affinity@yahoo.com> · Thu, 01 Nov 2007 18:35:49 -0000

Anyone care to respond to this woman....if so go to the link (which should have no spaces as there are no underscores....you may have to tinker with it a bit if Yahoo has messed it up)

http://www.creators.com/lifestylefeatures/dear-margo/kind-of-like-unofficial-polygamy.html

Content is below - 
Kind of Like Unofficial Polygamy
 Dear Margo: I am a very happily married woman with a problem: well-intentioned friends and family. My husband and I are polyamorous and not ashamed of it. We have wonderful girlfriends who are special and a part of our family.
The problem is that people assume we are on the verge of divorce, etc. Other than an indelicate "Butt out," is there any way to get them to see that we are really happy and stable? We've been married for five years. — Happily Poly

(For square readers like me who might need a trip to the dictionary, I will save you some time. "Polyamorous" is the name for multiple sexual relationships within marriage — in this case involving both spouses.) 

Dear Hap: You may not be ashamed of it, but you have to know that this arrangement would strike most people as being somewhere between odd and morally wrong, it being quite far from the norm. I am not sure why you felt the need to breeze it around that you and your husband have "wonderful girlfriends."
Because you have, however, essentially invited people to "butt in," you are a little bit stuck in terms of asking them to butt out. I guess the only way to prove yourselves happy and stable is for you two to continue to thrive with your, uh, wonderful girlfriends. 

— Margo, bewilderedly

Tara 
(aka Star Woman, in Lancaster Co.,  PA)

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