Re: [UUPoly-L] My husband is dumping me

["David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>]

Alan gave some good advice:

>The kid is the most important person in this whole thing. His interests
come first. I'd guess his best interests are in you two staying together.
That means you giving Husband everything he wants, for some period of time,
except a divorce -- in other words, time to come to his senses.

>P.S. If she's cheating on someone else to be with him, two points: People
repeat the patterns of their lives; a time will come when your husband is
the old shoe and she meets a new shiny. Look for a casual, friendly
opportunity to make this observation to Husband. If he gets upset don't
argue; you just need to say it once.

>Second, her cheating must be planting explosives in her own family. If it
explodes the whole situation could change. Another reason to give it time.


I will add that when I had a very passionate lover ("you are all I need" she
said) lie to me about having unprotected sex with a bi guy, I discovered the
meaning of borderline personality disorder. She had a history of moving from
guy to guy, telling each one that he was her "only one". This gal is 3 or 4
guys downstream from me now.

You might try to check out her history in some way.