Re: [UUPoly-L] My husband is dumping me

[Victor Raymond <vraymond@iastate.edu>]

At 07:38 PM 11/12/2007, you wrote:

> I will add that when I had a very passionate lover ("you are all I need" she
> said) lie to me about having unprotected sex with a bi guy, I discovered the
> meaning of borderline personality disorder. She had a history of moving from
> guy to guy, telling each one that he was her "only one". This gal is 3 or 4
> guys downstream from me now.

I sympathize with your experience - it's rotten to be lied to.  But 
as a bi guy myself, I'm a little sensitive to the implied suggestion 
that "bi guy=risky" (unless you mentioned it for some other reason, 
in which case I apologize).  See, it's not being bisexual that's the 
problem - it's the practice of unsafe sex, which is not limited to 
any one particular orientation (though I am sure you know that).  And 
as long as we stigmatize particular orientations, rather than 
practices, we're going to continue to see people hiding in closets.

If this is far afield from your implication, I'm sorry.  But citing 
his orientation in this context seemed misplaced.



Victor J Raymond
vraymond "at"  iastate.edu

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