[UUPoly-L] Our poly friends and their influence

[jay m <marcus_t_cicero@hotmail.com>]

Trisha and the group, Hello and greetings again. Thank you for the quick reply to our post.  Briefly, here's what I know about how my wife's girlfriend met her lovers. They are all members of the same church out East and also know each other from their work as well. Somehow the subject of polyamory came up and it turned out that the couple was indeed polyamorous.  Our friend was attracted to the couple and was invited out by them on a date and they hit if off really well. One thing led to another and before you knew it, our friend moved in with them and had her first bisexual encounter with the primary wife. I don't know if she slept with the primary husband before or after having her first lesbian experience but she also did have sex with him around the same time. They keep their relationship very private. My wife met all three of them when they came into town a few months ago but I was out of town and missed meeting them. She said that they were really nice but did admit that it was a little ackward at first when she met them and heard her friend call them her lovers.  Also, both of the women want to be pregnant by the husband as well very soon. We'll see how that goes.     The other main couple I don't know as well since we just trade babysitting services with them from time to time at our respectives homes. It's actually our turn to babysit next. My wife knows them much better than I do. Their son's very nice as well as the couple. They also keep their poly relationship private. I believe that they always date bi-women and seem to have a more casual approach to the family structure.  Oh, Trisha, I forgot one more first-hand experience with poly families.  We have also visited a commune here in the Midwest where there were some very very liberal and earthy couples/singles living there. Shocking, right! They lived minimalist eco-friendly lives. The residents we met were all friendly and hospitable. We met people from all walks of life including grad students, computer scientists, artists, writers and farmers as well. It was a terrific experience and taught me a great deal about sustainable living.  In any event, there was one four bedroom house where you were not only expected but pretty much required to be a part of the poly families also residing in the home. Obviously, the couples knew each other in the commune before moving into the house or the commune from the outside and selected that house in which to live. They also shared house duties, child rearing, cooking and other tasks above and beyond what was expected from the community in general. I felt some very good vibes and positive energy when we toured that house. 
 
Most importantly, all of the children seemed well-adjusted, happy, respectful and maturing well.  
So, that's our knowledge of first-hand poly familes. I am sure that my wife knows more from church but more casually than intimately. 
 
Please let us know if you have any other questions. We love hearing from you.
 
J/H
 
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