Re: [UUPoly-L] Our poly friends and their influence

["K Morgan-Davie" <kmorgandavie@gmail.com>]

J and H,
 I just can't get over how (relatively) easy it seems to be for some folks
to meet up with other Polyfolk!  Around here you might as well be looking
for Santa Claus most of the time - Poly's almost don't exist in the local
area (like, within 100 miles) and those few that do identify as Poly are
really poly-friendly, interested, believe they would like to be, but there's
nobody actually living the lifestyle and managing the complexities and
difficulties that we newcomers can lean on for advice, help, support,
partners, etc.
 Honestly it's kind of disheartening.  Easier in some ways for me as a male,
since middle-aged men are quite in demand, but for my SO, there really don't
seem to be any candidates out there.  Actually she'd be quite happy with
another woman to start, but again - they just don't seem to be in evidence.
Of course ideally we might find an individual, or even a couple, who we
could work on a relationship with, but the chances of that seem almost
laughable.  Ah, the trials and tribulations of New England life!
 So I'm attending the East Coast Polyamory Retreat this weekend, and hoping
to learn a lot about other peoples experiences, plus I've been charged by my
SO with the responsibility of locating prospects for us to meet...  or at
the least, someone for her!  I have my orders! :-)
Blessings - Keith



On 9/5/07, jay m <marcus_t_cicero@hotmail.com> wrote:
>
>
> Trisha and the group, Hello and greetings again. Thank you for the quick
> reply to our post.  Briefly, here's what I know about how my wife's
> girlfriend met her lovers. They are all members of the same church out East
> and also know each other from their work as well. Somehow the subject of
> polyamory came up and it turned out that the couple was indeed
> polyamorous.  Our friend was attracted to the couple and was invited out by
> them on a date and they hit if off really well. One thing led to another and
> before you knew it, our friend moved in with them and had her first bisexual
> encounter with the primary wife. I don't know if she slept with the primary
> husband before or after having her first lesbian experience but she also did
> have sex with him around the same time. They keep their relationship very
> private. My wife met all three of them when they came into town a few months
> ago but I was out of town and missed meeting them. She said that they were
> really nice but did admit t!
> hat it was a little ackward at first when she met them and heard her
> friend call them her lovers.  Also, both of the women want to be pregnant by
> the husband as well very soon. We'll see how that goes.     The other main
> couple I don't know as well since we just trade babysitting services with
> them from time to time at our respectives homes. It's actually our turn to
> babysit next. My wife knows them much better than I do. Their son's very
> nice as well as the couple. They also keep their poly relationship private.
> I believe that they always date bi-women and seem to have a more casual
> approach to the family structure.  Oh, Trisha, I forgot one more first-hand
> experience with poly families.  We have also visited a commune here in the
> Midwest where there were some very very liberal and earthy couples/singles
> living there. Shocking, right! They lived minimalist eco-friendly lives. The
> residents we met were all friendly and hospitable. We met people from all
> walks of life includ!
> ing grad students, computer scientists, artists, writers and farmers a
> s well. It was a terrific experience and taught me a great deal about
> sustainable living.  In any event, there was one four bedroom house where
> you were not only expected but pretty much required to be a part of the poly
> families also residing in the home. Obviously, the couples knew each other
> in the commune before moving into the house or the commune from the outside
> and selected that house in which to live. They also shared house duties,
> child rearing, cooking and other tasks above and beyond what was expected
> from the community in general. I felt some very good vibes and positive
> energy when we toured that house.
>
> Most importantly, all of the children seemed well-adjusted, happy,
> respectful and maturing well.
> So, that's our knowledge of first-hand poly familes. I am sure that my
> wife knows more from church but more casually than intimately.
>
> Please let us know if you have any other questions. We love hearing from
> you.
>
> J/H
>
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