Re: [UUPoly-L] Our poly friends and their influence

[Alexis <alexis.capen@gmail.com>]

Keith-
Where in New England are you located?  I have only recently become involved
in a poly relationship, but have met a large number of people who are poly
near my home and congregation through a couple of online sites.
~Alexis

On 9/5/07, K Morgan-Davie <kmorgandavie@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> J and H,
> I just can't get over how (relatively) easy it seems to be for some folks
> to meet up with other Polyfolk!  Around here you might as well be looking
> for Santa Claus most of the time - Poly's almost don't exist in the local
> area (like, within 100 miles) and those few that do identify as Poly are
> really poly-friendly, interested, believe they would like to be, but
> there's
> nobody actually living the lifestyle and managing the complexities and
> difficulties that we newcomers can lean on for advice, help, support,
> partners, etc.
> Honestly it's kind of disheartening.  Easier in some ways for me as a
> male,
> since middle-aged men are quite in demand, but for my SO, there really
> don't
> seem to be any candidates out there.  Actually she'd be quite happy with
> another woman to start, but again - they just don't seem to be in
> evidence.
> Of course ideally we might find an individual, or even a couple, who we
> could work on a relationship with, but the chances of that seem almost
> laughable.  Ah, the trials and tribulations of New England life!
> So I'm attending the East Coast Polyamory Retreat this weekend, and hoping
> to learn a lot about other peoples experiences, plus I've been charged by
> my
> SO with the responsibility of locating prospects for us to meet...  or at
> the least, someone for her!  I have my orders! :-)
> Blessings - Keith
>
>
>
> On 9/5/07, jay m <marcus_t_cicero@hotmail.com> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Trisha and the group, Hello and greetings again. Thank you for the quick
> > reply to our post.  Briefly, here's what I know about how my wife's
> > girlfriend met her lovers. They are all members of the same church out
> East
> > and also know each other from their work as well. Somehow the subject of
> > polyamory came up and it turned out that the couple was indeed
> > polyamorous.  Our friend was attracted to the couple and was invited out
> by
> > them on a date and they hit if off really well. One thing led to another
> and
> > before you knew it, our friend moved in with them and had her first
> bisexual
> > encounter with the primary wife. I don't know if she slept with the
> primary
> > husband before or after having her first lesbian experience but she also
> did
> > have sex with him around the same time. They keep their relationship
> very
> > private. My wife met all three of them when they came into town a few
> months
> > ago but I was out of town and missed meeting them. She said that they
> were
> > really nice but did admit t!
> > hat it was a little ackward at first when she met them and heard her
> > friend call them her lovers.  Also, both of the women want to be
> pregnant by
> > the husband as well very soon. We'll see how that goes.     The other
> main
> > couple I don't know as well since we just trade babysitting services
> with
> > them from time to time at our respectives homes. It's actually our turn
> to
> > babysit next. My wife knows them much better than I do. Their son's very
> > nice as well as the couple. They also keep their poly relationship
> private.
> > I believe that they always date bi-women and seem to have a more casual
> > approach to the family structure.  Oh, Trisha, I forgot one more
> first-hand
> > experience with poly families.  We have also visited a commune here in
> the
> > Midwest where there were some very very liberal and earthy
> couples/singles
> > living there. Shocking, right! They lived minimalist eco-friendly lives.
> The
> > residents we met were all friendly and hospitable. We met people from
> all
> > walks of life includ!
> > ing grad students, computer scientists, artists, writers and farmers a
> > s well. It was a terrific experience and taught me a great deal about
> > sustainable living.  In any event, there was one four bedroom house
> where
> > you were not only expected but pretty much required to be a part of the
> poly
> > families also residing in the home. Obviously, the couples knew each
> other
> > in the commune before moving into the house or the commune from the
> outside
> > and selected that house in which to live. They also shared house duties,
> > child rearing, cooking and other tasks above and beyond what was
> expected
> > from the community in general. I felt some very good vibes and positive
> > energy when we toured that house.
> >
> > Most importantly, all of the children seemed well-adjusted, happy,
> > respectful and maturing well.
> > So, that's our knowledge of first-hand poly familes. I am sure that my
> > wife knows more from church but more casually than intimately.
> >
> > Please let us know if you have any other questions. We love hearing from
> > you.
> >
> > J/H
> >
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