Re: [UUPoly-L] Polyamory and pregnancy

[Amanda Birmingham <lists@imladris.com>]

Hi, J/H,
While others on this list may be able to address your primary question,  
it is worth pointing out that I think the premise (unprotected  
intercourse) is pretty rare in the poly community among all but the  
most committed partners; while certainly accidents happen to polys, I'm  
guessing they are even rarer than in mono hetero relationships since  
most of the polys I've met are fanatical about safe sex unless they're  
fluid-bonded.  Of course, this is just my own anecdotal observation ...  
your mileage may vary :)
Amanda

On Sep 6, 2007, at 10:51 PM, jay m wrote:

> Hello everyone.
>
> Thank you all so much for the replies and the kind words. Just out of  
> curiosity, is it okay to email members in the group directly? Please  
> advise.
>
> Here's a question or two from us for the group to ponder over the  
> weekend and please feel free to contact us directly with any  
> information if you so desire.
>
> Since polyamory involves sex in one of its basics tenets, I was really  
> curious as to what happens afterwards, given the sex was unprotected  
> and hetero.
>
> How does pregnancy and polyamory go together for the primary couple  
> and their lovers?
> Does anyone here have first or second-hand knowledge of a secondary or  
> other male lover impregnating the primary wife? If so, how did that  
> work out? Was the primary husband okay with not being the bio dad?  
> Whose name is on the birth certificate, birth announcements, etc? Who  
> changes the diapers at 3 am?
> Besides the obvious for STDs, are there any unwritten rules regarding  
> birth control and conception?
> Does anyone know of or have heard of any poly families that purposely  
> have children with their secondary or other family units?Thank you  
> very much for the information. I find this topic very fascinating and  
> look forward to your replies.
>
> Also, it's possible that we may have met some of you here in the group  
> if you at the GA in Saint Louis a few years back. My wife mentioned  
> that she saw the UUPA booth at Edward Jones Dome/Conv. Center. We  
> stayed at the Adam's Mark by the Arch. I ran into numerous UU's at the  
> gardens, museums, Arch, Laclede's Landing and just walking around  
> town.
>
> Well, I must be off to bed. Take care everyone and have a great  
> weekend.
>
> Here in Minnesota, we are preparing for apple picking, a trip to the  
> Northshore of Lake Superior for the autumn leaves and a nice drive  
> through farm country to buy some corn stalks for decorations along  
> with some squash, gourds and of course baked goods.
>
> God bless.
>
> J/H
>
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