Re: [UUPoly-L] Polyamory and pregnancy

[Bitsy <darthbitsy@yahoo.com>]

I have thought about deliberately having children from the multiple males in my life.  It part of
my routine "do I want children some day" thoughts.  But, as I don?t want children yet, I can?t
really say what I do want if/when I have them.  And I certainly never have sex without birth
control!  (And being comfortable in my STD protection.)

Bitsy

--- jay m <marcus_t_cicero@hotmail.com> wrote:

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> Hello everyone. 
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> Thank you all so much for the replies and the kind words. Just out of curiosity, is it okay to
> email members in the group directly? Please advise.
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> Here's a question or two from us for the group to ponder over the weekend and please feel free
> to contact us directly with any information if you so desire. 
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> Since polyamory involves sex in one of its basics tenets, I was really curious as to what
> happens afterwards, given the sex was unprotected and hetero.
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> How does pregnancy and polyamory go together for the primary couple and their lovers?
> Does anyone here have first or second-hand knowledge of a secondary or other male lover
> impregnating the primary wife? If so, how did that work out? Was the primary husband okay with
> not being the bio dad? Whose name is on the birth certificate, birth announcements, etc? Who
> changes the diapers at 3 am?
> Besides the obvious for STDs, are there any unwritten rules regarding birth control and
> conception? 
> Does anyone know of or have heard of any poly families that purposely have children with their
> secondary or other family units?Thank you very much for the information. I find this topic very
> fascinating and look forward to your replies. 
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> Also, it's possible that we may have met some of you here in the group if you at the GA in Saint
> Louis a few years back. My wife mentioned that she saw the UUPA booth at Edward Jones Dome/Conv.
> Center. We stayed at the Adam's Mark by the Arch. I ran into numerous UU's at the gardens,
> museums, Arch, Laclede's Landing and just walking around town. 
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> Well, I must be off to bed. Take care everyone and have a great weekend. 
> 
> Here in Minnesota, we are preparing for apple picking, a trip to the Northshore of Lake Superior
> for the autumn leaves and a nice drive through farm country to buy some corn stalks for
> decorations along with some squash, gourds and of course baked goods.
> 
> God bless.
> 
> J/H
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