Re: [UUPoly-L] Dealing with Others

["K Morgan-Davie" <kmorgandavie@gmail.com>]

Penna,
You posed the question:


> *" Why can't people just listen and have compassion instead of jumping to
> judgement?
>
> Penna"*


It seems to me that the reason is fear. There is no logic in fear, no
considering the situation or weighing the evidence.  We have a fear reaction
based on our programming (both overt and covert), and unless we consciously
intervene, we will react, sometimes violently, to fight off whatever has
triggered our fear.
 So it is when one crosses cultural and societal boundaries.  The organism
makes it's threat determination based on the accepted norms, and acts to
eliminate the infection, first, determine true risk later.  To those Friends
(and particularly if they are female, I suspect) your situation is very
threatening, because it suggests that they too might face "competition" from
another woman - and they believe that competition is inevitable because love
IS a scarce resource in their lives.

That's my humble <g> opinion!

Blessings - Keith


-- 
> "Scarcity , or the appearance or scarcity, is the ultimate weapon. If we
> are convinced that the supply of love is  finite, we can be manipulated to
> any means, because we will do anything for love.  We will even hate."