Re: [UUPoly-L] Google Knol Article for Polyamory

[Jim Turner <jim@swankin-turner.com>]

Swinging

Swinging is not polyamory and this subject is many times a sore spot when poly people are speaking with non-polys about what polyamory is. Swinging, specifically, is recreational sex with no emotion tied to it. The swinging community usually has rules against forming tight emotional relationships with others with which you swing. Sometimes people who swing often tire of sex for the pleasure of sex and wish a more emotional connection with those they share such intimate experience with, and find themselves drifting away from swinging and into the wonderful and challenging world polyamory.

This is all not to say that polyamorists cannot also be swingers, they can, but both are circles are usually kept separate, not only because of philosophical differences, but because swinging has such a negative connotation associated with it from its '70's origination. Contemporary thought is that swinging is wrong and immoral; stigmatized by a puritanical social majority and is something that is wanted to be avoided as a comparison with polyamory while polyamory is working towards mainstream acceptance.

You could have an Open Triad where the relationship agreement states that swinging is OK, and one or more of the participants engages in swinging. Their specific (Open Triad) relationship would still be polyamorous, but the relationship with the swinging partners would not be.

Thoughts?

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From: uupoly-l-bounces+jim=swankin-turner.com@uupa.org [mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+jim=swankin-turner.com@uupa.org] On Behalf Of licorice gumdrop
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Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Google Knol Article for Polyamory

uff! that knol is certainly loaded with value judgments and normative statements, particularly vis-à-vis swinging!

- jenny

On Jul 31, 2008, at 4:21 PM, "Poly Friend" <Poly@ArionsHome.com> wrote:

> There has been a Google Knol article created for Polyamory.
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> http://knol.google.com/k/james-oneill/polyamory/3czmgkncteg8o/2#
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