[UUPoly-L] Another introduction

["Johnna L. Sturgeon" <johnna.l.sturgeon@gmail.com>]

I am also a new list member and decided now is as good a time as any to 
introduce myself. I am a divorced mother of one and currently involved 
in a serious relationship with a polyamorous, married man. My ex-husband 
and I also considered ourselves polyamorous and during our 14-year 
marriage had a couple of secondary relationships. My ex-husband and I 
joined a local UU about 5-6 years ago, but I haven't attended much since 
we split up because it just didn't feel like home to me anymore. During 
the time we attended that church, we had no secondary relationships, so 
there was never any reason to be open about poly. I am about to relocate 
to the Chicago area to start a Ph.D. program and was considering looking 
for a UU home there as well. I am venturing into very new territory 
here, because though I have been in poly relationships before, this is 
the first time my daughter has been old enough (14) to understand it. 
Also, it's the first time I myself don't have a "primary" relationship, 
and soon the relationship I do have will be a long-distance one. My 
daughter has not yet met my partner, but I have begun to explain to her 
about the fact that he is married to someone else, that there are people 
who believe it's possible and OK to love more than one person at once, 
and that her dad and I both had other relationships during our marriage. 
She didn't seem to be particularly fazed by that, which surprised me 
honestly. If anyone is familiar with the UU congregations in the Chicago 
area, I would be very grateful for any tips about which (if any) is 
likely to be the most accepting of my preferences. Congregations that 
are especially pagan-friendly would also be great since my daughter is 
(at the moment) Wiccan. Of course, if there are any list members who 
attend a Chicago-area UU that would be fabulous!

Johnna