Re: [UUPoly-L] Those links!!!!! Group newbie: books/resources about polyamory?

[Kytte <kyttewynpeny@gmail.com>]

The Ethical Slut was and is a book I recommend.   I think it lays out a
really clear picture of what a poly situation can look like.

I read it when I first was getting comfortable with my poly status and found
it very helpful.  I know many don't think that way - and the first chapter,
hell the first paragraph, is very in your face about what is going on, so I
can see where it would not be a good read for someone who doesn't KNOW if
poly is for them.  But for someone who already does think that way, it's not
so shocking.  In fact I remember thinking that the situation described in
the first chapter sounded perfectly normal, happy, and just how I wanted to
be living.

To me, it was a big help.


-Kytte/Babs


On Wed, Dec 3, 2008 at 10:04 AM, Linda Fingerson <slyypper@hotmail.com>wrote:

>
> I think the thing I remember most fondly from my reading of ethical slut is
> the way it fully embraces LGBTQ identities in every thread of the
> discussion.  That's the kind of poly I want to be involved in & associated
> with.  hands down.
>
> also love very much Wendy-O Matik's book on open relationships.  It's
> purple.  don't remember the title.  A divorced woman of my acquaintance
> refuses to give me my copy back  ;-)
>
> Linda
>
> > From: kb4wyr@fhrd.net
> > To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> > Date: Wed, 3 Dec 2008 09:56:17 -0600
> > Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Those links!!!!! Group newbie: books/resources
> about  polyamory?
> >
> > I almost threw The Ethical Slut across the room as well when I first read
> > it.  That was because I don't think I really wanted to face the truths
> that
> > were in the initial chapters.  The authors do not pull any punches, they
> are
> > in your face about polyandry.  I finished the book and am glad I did.  At
> > the time I read it I still had blinders on and this book helped me think
> > more effectively about Polyamory.
> >
> > Incidentally, the authors of The Ethical Slut have collaborated on other
> > books.  One I especially like is "Someone you love is Kinky".  It was a
> good
> > explanation of how one's sexuality needs to be honored and nurtured but
> may
> > be different from the readers.  That difference is not shameful or wrong.
>  I
> > am not doing it justice.  It's a good read.
> >
> > Christine
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: uupoly-l-bounces+kb4wyr=fhrd.net@uupa.org
> > [mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+kb4wyr <uupoly-l-bounces%2Bkb4wyr>=fhrd.net@
> uupa.org] On Behalf Of Brigitte
> > Fires
> > Sent: Tuesday, December 02, 2008 11:21 PM
> > To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> > Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Those links!!!!! Group newbie: books/resources
> > aboutpolyamory?
> >
> > You know, I've got to say, I wasn't impressed with the ethical slut. I
> > couldn't get through it. After being sort of disgusted by the end of
> > the first chapter, I skipped around a little bit to see if I was just
> > missing something, and pretty much found the tone of the rest of the
> > book to be just as disgusting, self-serving, and offensive as the
> > beginning. And frankly, not something I'd personally feel comfortable
> > telling people is a good source for relationship advice, poly or not.
> >
> > Although I encourage folks to read it and form their own opinions
> > about it. I'm just stating my own :)
> >
> > Brigitte
> >
> > On Wed, Dec 3, 2008 at 12:10 AM, Roza <alliumphobia@hotmail.com> wrote:
> > >
> > > i highly recommend The Ethical Slut as somewhat of an introduction, and
> > also just as a general book of interesting things to think about for any
> > relationship, poly or mono, sexual/romantic or friendship.
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