Re: [UUPoly-L] Group newbie: books/resources about polyamory?

["Emily B." <greystone.house@pacbell.net>]

Hello!

I was originally planning on lurking for quite a bit longer, but with a 
couple of other new people posting I thought I would go ahead and make my 
presence known.

I also thought I would second the recommendation for PolyMatchmaker, or more 
particularly the PMM forums.  I've been moderately active & vocal there for 
a few months now.  In my experience the discussions are intelligent, 
informative, candid, & lively, people are generally happy to answer 
questions, usually thoroughly & carefully, and only on rare occasions have I 
seen poor judgement concerning what is appropriate.  In each of those cases 
the moderators stepped in and settled it swiftly & equitably.  The members 
who are active in the forums are a reasonable balance of old-timers and 
those who are newer, but with enough experience to be comfortable, leavened 
by enough newbies to keep it comfortable for other newbies to join in.

For books, the only one I've read is _Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless 
and Hopeful_.  I highly recommend it, with just a couple of caveats.  One, 
the author appears to be somewhat ambivalent about marriage.  In places, his 
attitude towards married couples feels to me like it could be summed up as 
"Don't bother trying to be poly, because sooner or later you will fail 
miserably."  Two, he is a bit on the egotistical & opinionated side.  Some 
people may find it irritating.  I didn't mind, because the content of the 
book is thought-provoking and challenged us to really think about a lot of 
questions that we probably wouldn't otherwise have considered until we ran 
into them the hard way.

As far as my presence here goes, I'm almost new to UU and almost new to 
poly, so I'm listening and learning.

Emily

P.S. - For any other PMM members, my user name there is DaughterOfTheValley.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Mist" <mistmtn26@yahoo.com>
To: <uupoly-l@uupa.org>
Sent: Thursday, December 04, 2008 11:52 AM
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Group newbie: books/resources about polyamory?


Greetings Lia,

I'm curious about your reference to having recently stumbled into poly. If 
you have a particular question relating to the stumble, folks on the list 
might have some targeted resources to suggest. Generally, you might want to 
check out polymatch maker. It is more than just a matchmaking site. In 
addition to good background resources, there are also a number of 
interesting forums to follow.

Bright blessings of peace and joy,

Misty