[UUPoly-L] Fw: Sing it from the hilltop - judiciously

["Michael Paprocki" <msppbs@itol.com>]

In Vol 51, Issue 12 was:

Message: 6

From: stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com>
Subject: [UUPoly-L] I made it official...

I had breakfast with our community minister last week, who is a also friend of mine.?? After catching up on other details of each others lives, I told her that after 24 years with hubby, I was now poly.? Her reaction was just as expected, soooo supportive.?? For the first time since starting my poly journey, I feel like I am totally honest with myself, even though because of personal reasons, I can not make it public knowledge.? The act of stating it out loud to a friend was such a relief.? Having it be a total secret made it seem slightly wrong and dirty, even though in my heart I know it isn't.? I'm just a very truthful person, and the lying or withholding of info aspect was working on me.
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I'm hoping to slowly tell a few other friends.? I'll know when the time is right for each person.
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Stargazngal

I (Michael) say:

Stargazngal, I am soooo happy for you - and may your informing those few other friends be rewarding as well.

I am lucky? too in a way. Though I consider myself poly, I am not "practicing" now (I have no attachments at all). Yet I have a friend who I have told I am poly. She is less than supportive, but not condemning. She figures it's not hurting her so it's non of her business. Yet I find myself often in debate with her over whether it is just all about sexual freedom. Even with that consideration, it is helpful to have told someone. "Hidding it" from everyone somehow does make it seem illicite and wrong. Even having to defend it is better than keeping it a secrete. It lets you know who your true friends are too.

Michael Paprocki