Re: [UUPoly-L] SLEEP ARRAINGMENTS

[Roza <alliumphobia@hotmail.com>]

i have nothing of substance to add this this discussion as such.  however, i just wanted to share that THIS is part of why i joined this list, and why i remain despite occasional unpleasant bits.  the matter-of-fact discussion about how to make sure everyone's comfortable in a multi-person relationship and bed just doesn't happen in the rest of my life.  not only was reading this small exchange interesting and useful for future reference, but it also made me glad that here, at least, i find people who don't care who i am dating or how many of them there are or what form the relationship takes -- as long as my partner(s) and i are happy.  the response i usually get upon explaining my sexuality, even from people who are very open-minded and liberal, is at best a blank stare and great confusion.  to them, i am not normal.  thank you all for redefining normalacy.
roza

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> Date: Sun, 14 Dec 2008 19:33:36 -0500
> From: earthfather@cfnc.us
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] SLEEP ARRAINGMENTS
> 
> 
> 
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Malanf@aol.com
> > 
> > I know this may or may not be a issue for some of the str8 Polyies,
> > however
> > when WE, all three sleep together the bed gets very crowded, We are
> > sleeping
> > in  a QUEEN size bed...would a king size help or is it just three folks
> > sleeping  together??
> 
> In our experience, a king-size bed was necessary for all three to have
> enough room-- and we are all small people.  (I had some friends who were
> large people, and for their triad, they had *two* queen mattresses side by
> side.  Sleeping three in a normal queen-size bed would give each person only
> 20"!  A standard single/twin bed is *twice" that wide-- so this is like two
> people sharing a single/twin bed
> 
> Depending on the bed arrangement, you might not have to buy new mattresses,
> etc.  A queen-size bed is 60" x 80", and a king-size bed is 78" x 80".  So
> we turned the queen-size mattress sideways, and put some foam cushions along
> the "foot" of the mattress.  That way, no one is sleeping along a seam, and
> we've found that we don't notice a seam if it occurs across the lower part
> of a leg.
> 
> It has worked out *very* well.  We had a premium queen mattress before, and
> just by using some scrap foam and plywood, we were able to turn it into a
> spacious, top-quality king-size bed.   :-)
> 
> Another trick we have learned is that there should be one king-size sheet,
> but two sets of queen-size blankets, one on each side of the bed.  That way,
> each person can control how much blanket coverage they have.  Otherwise, the
> person in the middle, who usually need *fewer* blankets, has to have as many
> blankets as the people on the outside.  When I'm in the middle, I usually
> have *no* blankets, even when my partners have two each.
> 
> Michael Rios
> 
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