Re: [UUPoly-L] gay, straight or bi

["faraze waqar" <farazester@gmail.com>]

like to know u guys

On Jan 11, 2008 6:46 AM, <bear@pagansexcult.org> wrote:

>
>
> I dunno.  When confronted with a question about someone's
> gender preference, I basically think of a very small set of
> questions.  And any subset of these questions can have yes
> answers.
>
> A: (sexually) Likes Men?
> B: (sexually) Likes Women?
> C: Willing to take relationships with men seriously?
> D: Willing to take relationships with women seriously?
>
> There are corresponding questions about whether they prefer
> transsexuals, intersexed or neuter folk, but not being of
> any of those persuasions, nor ever called upon to play
> matchmaker for someone who is, they are not questions I need
> to ask.
>
> Questions about being "out" fall more under honesty and
> self-respect than gender preference as far as I'm concerned.
>
> If behavior is different from gender preference, and it's
> not due to special circumstances arising from their life and
> current relationships, then I think it's a huge warning sign
> under general personality integration rather than an aspect
> of gender preference.  For example, someone who likes men
> but has made a commitment to be monogamous in a relationship
> with a woman, I understand (and empathize with -- been
> there, on the opposite side of the coin).  Someone who is
> sexually attracted to a given gender but would never have
> sex with one because s/he doesn't respect them - or for
> some other such "internal" reason - I would consider myself
> warned of a broken personality when I discovered that about
> someone, which IMO is far more important than someone's
> gender preference.
>
>                   Bear
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