Re: [UUPoly-L] Welcoming Congregation & poly

["David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>]

I'm out as poly in my congregation, at least to those who remember my sermon
a few years ago. I don't have a lot of close friends in the church,
certainly not any single women. For anyone who reads UUWorld, my local
address is in the UUPA ad each issue. Can't hide.

When we did the WC process, I simply proposed that "relationship style" be
included in the "regardless of" change to the bylaws and no one objected.
They had "marital status" or some such and I pointed out that people were
either married or not, so that made no sense. No discussion, passed by the
congregation. Avoid making poly an issue.

Dave Hall

-----Original Message-----
From: uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org
[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+airsafe1=comcast.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of Linda
Fingerson
Sent: Tuesday, March 25, 2008 11:00 AM
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Cc: tcurtin@comcast.net; Sophia Shultz
Subject: [UUPoly-L] Welcoming Congregation & poly


Hi all, my name is Linda, I attend the UU fellowship in Mohegan Lake, New
York, and I am in a poly triad with the lovely Tom & the brave Sophia.  

My fellowship is one of the few in the Metro NY district that hasn't gone
through the Welcoming Congregation curriculum.  I'm on the planning
committee for WC  and we're launching the curriculum on this coming Sunday
March 30.  

Already I am fielding questions about the relevance of poly to this
curriculum from people whom I thought would understand but don't. It is
obviously a tough sell to a group of straight marrieds-with-children who may
accept the existence of bisexuals in the abstract but not of poly bisexuals
in the concrete.  

I have two concerns here: my own out-ness and the curriculum itself.  I do
want to be out to my fellowship:  I've been attending 7 years, I was the
fellowship's president in 06-07, and I have had some conversations with our
minister about this, she is generally supportive.  

I can see where it will be possible to work in some poly resources to the
Bisexual/biphobia workshop, and what about the rest of the book?  Are there
places in this big purple workshop book where I can integrate poly or
sex-positive materials?  Any suggestions?  For my part in the presentation
this Sunday, I'm reading the bullet points from the bisex/biphobe workshop
page, following on with part of an essay by Wendy-O Matik about radical
love.

Thank you ....

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