Re: [UUPoly-L] Need help with jealousy

["K Kylev" <sweetbinbi@gmail.com>]

JennyLynn,  You have the peace within to relax in this without anxiety.
Jealousy is simply ego fear, as you know, set forth to destroy your peace.
Unconditional Love is absolute for Poly relationships.  Spirit is your
strength, you are spirit that is all peace.  Find that place in you to pray
for the answer then through meditation receive that answer that will come to
you with all Knowing. . . To KNOW is to Trust with Faith that your hearts
desire will be fulfilled.  The Universe is abundant and holds nothing back
from you that you will relinquish.  The more we are willing to give the more
we are able to receive---we open that space to receive.  This is the kind of
open-mindedness we are all called on to receive.  An open-mind opens ones
heart to non-judgement and forgiveness that breaths Peace.  Give yourself
and your "master" the Peace and Love you both deserve Knowing what is to
come is better than you can imagine for the best and highest of all.  Stay
positive and you are open to the abundance of the positive goodness to come
your way.  We are---receiving what we think.  Think, feel and act out the
desire of your heart with unconditional-love. Think thoughts of love, feel
that love that is yours through Universal Energy and act with the JOY of
being the loving precious blessing you are.  Wishing you, your husband and
master many blessings.  I will be remembering you in my prayers and heart.
Namaste, SK  PS  Iyanla Vanzants books are excellent, though not Poly.

We are all blessed by a New Day in a New Nation.

On Wed, Nov 5, 2008 at 10:57 AM, JennyLynn Oh <jennylynn.oh@gmail.com>wrote:

> Is anyone else out there just "slightly" poly?  Let me elaborate...I'm
> married, and we decided to make it an open marriage about a  year ago.  The
> reason was, I'm interested in bdsm but my husband is not, so in order to
> have my needs met, I'm free to find a partner that engages in bdsm with me.
> I love my husband, and I love my Master, although in very different ways.
>  I
> also sense that I have no need for partners beyond what I have.
>
> Currently, my Master lives about an hour away, in Austin, but this Saturday
> he's flying to Seattle to start a new job.  He'll fly back occasionally,
> and
> I'll visit him as often as we can manage, but our time together will
> obviously be limited from here on out.  My Master is also poly, but
> differently than me.  He said that he may have play partners in Seattle,
> maybe another sub, whatever comes his way that meets his needs.
>
> This absolutely terrifies me.  I feel that it's only a matter of time
> before
> I'm replaced and forgotten.  The thought of my Master with another woman
> scares me to no end.  I worry about him comparing me to someone else and I
> just know that I'll come up short.  He's assured me that the slice of his
> life that I occupy is mine and can't be taken away.  I also know that
> because of our dynamic, I can't control what he does (nor would I want to).
> He has a high sex drive, and I wouldn't want him to be out there and not
> getting his needs met.  And apart from sex, I don't want him to be
> lonely--I
> want him to have companionship and friends.  But....I'm just so scared.  I
> worry that the first time he's with someone, I'll be a wreck knowing that
> he's holding someone else in his arms.
>
> Can anyone offer some advice about how to deal with jealousy like this?
>  Any
> good books to read?  Anything?
>
> Thanks in advance
> Jen
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