Jen, > Can anyone offer some advice about how to deal with > jealousy like this? Any good books to read? Anything? Here's some excellent reading matter from people I know and respect: http://www.practicalpolyamory.com/images/Wagner_Making_Peace_with_Jealousy_Handout.pdf http://www.weirdness.org/coaching/Adverts/ManagingJealousyFLYER.htm Cheers, Alan M.