Re: [UUPoly-L] What do YOU think?

["Catherine Deville" <catdeville@cox.net>]

I think you mean that you agree with Cyn, as I didn't say that.  I do agree
with Cyn however, as well, and with you. :)  

Unless you're agreeing with something I've said in the past, where I
expressed similar sentiments, which I likely have, as I pretty much have
always said that while practicing polyamory in a healthy manner may require
the individuals involved to have a more developed relationship skill set
because communication can be more important than in a traditional monogamous
relationship (you can't float by with a set of assumed expectations as a
monogamous couple *may* be able to) and logistics *can* be harder (and then
again, it might not be... Coordinating the schedules of 3 lovers living
together, as in a triad, may be less difficult than managing the schedules
of 2 adults and 3 active kids, all involved in separate extra curricular
activities), this doesn't assume that the individuals involved in polyamory
are any more "advanced" than those involved in monogamy. Even monogamous
relationships generally involve more than just the couple involved in their
family group dynamic.

All relationships require certain skills, among them communication and
logistical planning skills, to be healthy, all families require a good
relationship skills set to varying degrees, and how healthy a relationship
is depends more on whether or not these skills are present at the level
required by the individuals and the relationship then it does what
configuration the relationship takes.  And choosing polyamory is certainly
no indicator of personal "evolution" or any assurance of a positive,
constructive or healthful personality type.

NT, 
Cat

-----Original Message-----
From: uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org
[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of Roza
Sent: Monday, November 17, 2008 5:21 AM
To: UU Poly
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] What do YOU think?


i agree with cat.  one's personality characteristics may be related to one's
identities, but there isn't a causal relationship.  it would be just as
ridiculous to say that all UUs are absolutely and in every situation kind
and caring and accepting.  as a UU, i know there are UUs who are not kind
and accepting, and sometimes that uncaring UU is me.  i do think that poly
people TEND to be more open-minded about the different ways that people can
choose to have relationships with others, but i would in no way claim that
as an absolute.
roza

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> Date: Sun, 16 Nov 2008 21:30:24 -0500
> From: earthfather@cfnc.us
> To: cyn@technomom.com; uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] What do YOU think?
> 
> 
> 
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Cynthia Armistead
> 
> > I see polyamory as one of the many, equally legitimate ways to be in 
> > relationship to others.
> > It is an indication that its practitioners are more "advanced" in 
> > any way,
> 
> 
> I assume that Cyn meant to say
> 
> > It is *not* an indication that its practitioners are more "advanced" 
> > in any way,
> 
> Michael Rios
> 
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